You are describing a b2bua, back to back user agent.
Freeswitch is what I use. There is SEMS and of course asterisk. I don't recommend
asterisk.
I have some experience with FreeSWITCH but have no one with SEMS. Have
SEMS any advantages over FreeSWITCH for topology hiding?
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WBR,
Eugene Prokopiev